Learn to love yourself. The greatest gift that you can give to yourself is the gift of love. Learning to love yourself truly is absolutely invaluable. It would help if you accept nothing less than honesty and respect from others but be willing to give the same.
Anything that affects one's ability to love themselves, be honest and respectful truly, should be evaluated and dismissed accordingly. Set goals for yourself, define a clear vision, and proceed. You are responsible for your life and what you allow.
If you are seeking love purely from others, are afraid of love, or afraid of getting hurt, then ask yourself, "where am I at in my life? Are you happy and confident in yourself? Have you built, or are you building a life for yourself, free from trying to please anyone else?
These thoughts came out of nowhere a while back, which was odd because I’ve been single for a very, very, very long time!
Open to Love
It dawned on me that this shield I built around myself, one of being single and not open to love, has started to dissolve. Perhaps it is because I am fully leaning into my purpose. Plus, I really have truly learned to love who I am, quirks and all.
I am open to love because I’m not afraid of getting hurt. When you learn to love yourself, the idea of getting hurt doesn't sound as traumatic because you know you'll be okay being alone at times.
It all Falls Into Line
The truth is; personally, I am finally building a life free of depression and anxiety, free from insecurities. If someone comes along, then I’m going to continue to build my life. I will also support better someone else who has their own life or build the life they want to build.
My point is if you are afraid of loving someone else or of getting hurt, then do you truly love yourself? Are you really building the life you want? Work on that first and pay attention to how the rest falls in line.